My mother was my first motivation and inspiration to succeed. Though from a humble background, she taught me to live life always aiming at the sky. She taught me the importance of building relationships with wise people. And when my father totally turned against me majoring in the arts, she recognised my potentials and supported me strongly. During the last holiday I had with my mum, I was writing a book for children and she proudly said, “I am glad I supported your decision back then”. Now I have a budding poetry society and a semi-successful writing career.– Oyedeji Damilola (Founder, Ariella Poetry Society)
A mother’s mindset is like a mainframe computer that communicates multiple signals to her children and those around her. A child’s possibility to succeed is higher when he(generic) has a mother who supports and pushes her children to success. The first connection a child has to the outer world is his mother. Firstly, he shares space, food and water with her. He gets vitamins needed to grow into a healthy foetus from her. He shares feelings with her and she shares her feelings with him too. This pre-natal connection marks the importance of a mother to a child. In this article, I will be identifying seven ways a mother can make her child RICH!
Primarily, the right mindset is the right way to life. A mother’s way or approach to viewing life is what she passes down to her child. A mother who believes in everyday learning will train her child to see every moment as an opportunity to learn. If she believes in the cogence of making mistakes and learning from them, she will pass down the value to her child. If a mother is such that remains stuck to archaic ideas, refusing to drop them for new ones, she might be an obstacle to the adventurous spirit in her child(ren). Consequently, preventing possible future achievements.
Also, many wise men have said, “deep thinkers are great thinkers”. Children are naturally imaginative and inquisitive, trying to make sense of the world they have found themselves in. Yet, some mothers try to shun their children and cut them out of their world of imagination. Mothers who are, however, able to encourage deep and creative thinking in their children will succeed in helping to build their child’s imaginative ability. I believe that anything achievable is something that must be first of all imaginable. Alexander Graham Bell did not wake up one day to his telephone invention. It all began with an imagination. Mothers who can build their children’s ability to think give them a great tool in this world of inventions.
Furthermore, a mother’s ability to push and motivate her child to Success is invaluable. Pushing and pressuring are two different ideas. Pushing gives room for mistakes however, pressuring leaves the child with no option of failing. A mother, who motivates her child to try new things, pointing out the possibility of failing, pushes him to greatness. Most parents try to tie their children down to a safe space, preventing them from taking new adventures. Parents who do that rid their children of their ability to discover and invent. Popular rapper Kanye West spoke about his mother as the one person who taught him to believe in his “flyness” and also to conquer his shyness. She motivated him to be the voice to allow people to think and find their own way.
Consequently, a mother who motivates her child becomes a support system. This gives the child the belief that he has his number one cheerleader in her. Gabby Douglas, the renowned artistic gymnast, is the first African American to have won the Olympic all-around champion in 2012. She began her training at age six after her mother enrolled her in gymnastic classes. When Gabby felt the pressure of being separated from her family she wanted to give up. Her mother’s tough love helped her to hold on strongly. It was that year that she won the gold for individual all-around gymnastics.
DISCIPLINE AND FORESIGHT
Ben Carson’s story is another one that strikes deeply. His mother is a definition of love, discipline and foresight. Ben Carson is a renowned paediatric neurosurgeon who was mothered by a single mother with no formal education. He said, “She was one of God’s greatest blessings to me and it was her foresight and discernment that pushed me to reach my dreams”. Ben lagged behind academically but his mother taught him that it was in his power to change their life’s situation. When she realised how much of TV her children watched, she curbed it by making them read two books in a week. That regular reading habit was what Ben later said to be the beginning of his fruitful academic career. Ben Carson’s story enlightens us on what a mother’s love and discipline can do to her child.
The importance of a great interpersonal relationship skill cannot be over-emphasized. Many children who have poor relations skills are influenced by their family background. Any mother who encourages her child(ren )to communicate feelings and opinion freely and confidently, correcting any form of impertinence, is good. Great relationships are success markers; show me your friends and I will tell you who you are. The ability for mothers to encourage their children to keep good friends is one great boost that every child needs.
Having said all, I want you to note that your mother is a body of wisdom. If you look closely, you will see in her, several values that will help you go a long way in life. Mothers are priceless and they can lure you to great success.